Singleness
Fight the Urge to Jump Into a New Relationship Too Soon
When you try to bypass the pain, it doesn't go away
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Because you became so used to being in a relationship, suddenly being single can make you feel like a fish out of water struggling to breathe.
After everything your ex put you through — the abuse, the neglect, the disrespect, and the humiliation — you may still be missing him/her and the pain may be unbearable.
Despite the pain and heartache, you may still miss the relationship and the sense of security and comfort it provided you.
To bypass the pain, you may get into a new relationship so you can just get over them as quickly as possible.
But that’s what causes so many problems for you down the line.
Finding someone to temporarily fill the void left by your ex-partner can be rewarding in the short term, but in the long term, it can leave you with worse pain than before when the new relationships fails because you didn’t heal properly.
Oftentimes, we jump into a new relationship to self-medicate but doing that only prolongs the healing process.
When you bypass the pain in your heart and get with someone new, the pain does not go away.
It's kind of like sweeping dirt under the rug when you don't feel like dealing with it. It doesn't disappear because it's out of sight. It stays underneath the rug covered up until it starts to smell bad or ruin your rug.
It’s the same with jumping into a rebound relationship.
Finding someone to temporarily fill the void left by your ex-partner can be rewarding in the short term, but in the long term, it can leave you with worse pain than before when you realize you messed up the new relationship because you didn’t take the time to heal properly and you brought old issues and insecurities into it.
Singleness is sacred, and the universe wants you to honor this time by healing yourself.
It's very tempting to want to get with someone new, especially when your ex has already moved on and is “happy” with someone else, but don’t fall for it. Nothing is as it seems.
Take your time and make your healing a priority.
Fight the urge to jump into a new relationship for the sake of comfort.
Singleness is not loneliness and being single should not bring you any shame or embarrassment. Don’t allow the voices in your head and the voices around you to make you feel as if something is wrong with you.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Although being single again can be scary and uncomfortable, singleness is an important period of your life and you must honor this time by building yourself up.
Your patience is important during this season.
Being single is the perfect time to learn your true identity and figure out what it is you came here to do.
Don’t allow the people around you to lead you away from the plan of your life.
Don’t allow negative thoughts into your mind, making you feel unworthy and undeserving of love. They are all lies.
Everything will work out for your good if you honor the waiting season and heal the pain you feel inside your heart.
When you take the time to heal yourself first, your next relationship will be rewarding for the both of you because there will be nothing holding you back.
When you've healed the pain in your heart and the thought of your ex doesn’t conjure up negative emotions, there’ll be nothing preventing you from giving your new relationship your all.
Don’t rush into a new relationship too soon. Take all the time you need to heal yourself and your past before moving on.
