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We’ve All Been Stabbed in the Heart
When you keep twisting the knife, the wound never heals
If you’ve been living life the best way you can, chances are you’ve gotten hurt somewhere along the way. A parent abandons you or even abuses you and taints your view of life. A spouse or partner breaks your heart to pieces and makes you afraid to open your heart again. A friend stabs you in the back and betrays your trust. A stranger assaults you and you’re livid. You lose a loved one and you don’t know how to move on.
Getting hurt is a painful part of life and sometimes we replay the experience over and over again in our minds. It’s like being stabbed in the back, but the knife is still there. Every time we replay the hurt in our minds, we twist the knife a little more.
When you keep twisting the knife and digging in the wound, the pain never goes away and the wound never heals.
This happens to most of us.
After we’ve been hurt, we go through life never really pulling the knife out of us and constantly twisting it, trying to understand what has happened.
Every time you do that, you feel the same way you felt when you first got hurt.
So what can we do? What can you do about the pain that robs you of your peace of mind and the hurts that poison your soul?
There is a simple solution, but it’s not an easy one. You may not even want to hear it. It’s very difficult, but when you do it, you're set free. You pull the knife out of you and you begin the real healing journey.
The solution is forgiveness. Forgive the person who hurt you.
I know. How can you forgive the idiot who hurt your loved one? How can you forgive your spouse who cheated on you and humiliated you in front of your friends and family? How can you forgive the father who left you when you were just a kid or the mother who failed to keep you safe?
